Welcome, my name is Marjolein
Coach & Relationship Therapist
I am a certified Psychosexual Somatic Therapist and help people to improve their relationships both with themselves and with others. This I do in the fields of intimacy, sexuality, stress and burn-out.
In the last 20 years I gained experience as a journalist, communication advisor and teacher of intimacy workshops. All of my knowledge and experience now comes to its full potential in the capacity of Coach and Relationship Therapist.
“Everything starts with desire” is my conviction.
Since I’m able to get in touch with what I really want, I act accordingly and my life is much more beautiful. I wish the same for you.
I would like to help you to find out what it is you are longing for. It can be a desire for your working life, for your loving relationship(s), for the relationship with yourself or your family, or for your vision of the future. It’s about discovering the area in which you limit yourself and why you do so. In order to subsequently remove barriers or overcome thresholds. The goal is a life filled with more happiness, love, pleasure or success.
My values: what I find important
To work on your own growth, it is essential to be open, honest and sometimes vulnerable. I appreciate that you don’t do that lightly. A sense of trust and safety is very important. That is why I am fully committed to providing a safe space for you, with everything you bring to the table.
- We will build up trust by gradually becoming acquainted with each other. The sessions are centred around you, but you’re always free to ask me personal questions if that helps you feel more comfortable with me.
- We work at your pace. I will not ‘push’ you. During the sessions, I will regularly offer suggestions or invite you to participate in an exercise. You will then decide whether you want to participate or not. Your desires and boundaries are leading.
- Curiosity is key. Everything that comes up, is welcome. We observe it and examine it. As neutrally as we possibly can. I will not pass judgement, but ask unprejudiced questions and listen carefully to what you’re thinking and feeling.
- You are welcome regardless of your gender, your religious or philosophical beliefs, your sexual preferences and your relational preferences. I enjoy working with people from all walks of life.
The connection with others is what drives me. Talking to people, enquiring about them, listening to them and wanting to understand them. From a very young age, others noticed my curiosity and eagerness to learn. After some detours, it resulted in my working as a freelance journalist. I especially found interviewing, analysing and establishing new connections fascinating. As well as all the material and people I came into contact with. My curiosity was being satisfied. Since I wanted to continue to develop, I chose to work as a Communications Adviser. And I still do. There, too, the connection with people plays a central role.
In my private life, I have been exploring various forms of intimacy for a long time. Be it the human need for a good conversation, for recognition on the job, for touch or for a profound conversation filled with empathy. We humans cannot live without relationships and intimacy. Furthermore, I have been fascinated by sexuality since I was a teenager. What role it may play in people’s lives; what people may do with their sexual energy; how their preferences may develop; and what about their needs and boundaries? I discuss it with my nearest and dearest, I read books about it and I attended many workshops. That is how I got to know myself and others a lot better. It creates new connections, enjoyment and a sense of liberation and empowerment.
For over 10 years now, I have been providing workshops and private lessons to couples who want to expand and improve their intimacy and sexuality. The profound self-awareness and empowerment that my voyage of discovery brought me has been so valuable to me that I wanted to introduce this same potential to other people too. The development and the growth that people go through during the processes that I guide, are a profound motivation for me. It brings me fulfilment.
I also experience a high level of fulfilment being a coach. It’s wonderful to guide people and to see how they deepen their contact with themselves. And to see that the more they dare to feel where their desire lies, the more they will choose to be true to themselves and what is right for them. This may affect them in their private lives, in their personal relationships, but also in their working lives. I watch as they become more comfortable in their own skin, experience greater internal balance and are able to connect more deeply with their world around them.
My life’s journey has led me to now have a healthy internal balance and feel a strong connection with the people around me. But it has taken a lot to get here. I dare say that I am a hard worker. Someone who likes to do things properly, likes to do a lot, and derives self-worth from that. This pattern was established at an early age. It has brought me a lot. Absolutely. But it also resulted in a deep burnout, after two decades of hard work. I decided not to carry on in the same way, but to examine my patterns and convictions. To listen to my emotions and my body’s signals better. I subsequently rearranged my life and I now set my priorities in a different way. Much has changed. Especially internally. I am not exaggerating when I use the term transformation. I transformed. On a deep level. And I now feel very clearly how my own journey and experience better equip me to guide others on theirs.
My training and experience
- PsychoSexual Somatics Therapy with Mike Lousada & Louise Mazanti (I’m a certified Therapist)
- Teacher-Organiser of workshops and Facilitator-Leader of private sessions for couples around intimacy, connection and alternative sexuality (10 years experience)
- Senior Communication Advisor (12 years experience)
- Former Journalist and Interviewer (8 years experience)
- Tension & Trauma Releasing Exercises (TRE) Provider Training
- Trauma to Trust Training by Embodied Intimacy
- Creating Safer Spaces Training by Shelby Leigh
- Iyengar Yoga Teacher Training (2 years + 12 years of practice)
- Courses in the following areas:
- Nervous System Regulation and Polyvagal Theory
- Meditation and Mindfulness (Vipassana and Dzogchen traditions)
- Embodiment, Bodywork and Breathwork
- Transactional Analysis
- Non Violent Communication
- Personal Leadership, Situational Leadership and Change Management
My areas of expertise:
Interests of mine
I have immersed myself in these subjects out of personal interest:
burnout and recovery; leadership; the workings of the nervous system; co-regulation and self-regulation; high-sensitivity; addiction; various forms of bodywork; stress and tension release; somatic wisdom; meditation; mindfulness; Iyengar yoga; (developmental) trauma; attachment patterns; internal family systems (IFS); inner child work; transactional analysis; emotional literacy; shadow work; from self-rejection to self-acceptance and self-love; wishes, needs and boundaries; authentic sexual expression; alternative sexuality (such as tantra and bdsm); various forms of relationships (monogamy, polyamory, open relationship); didactics; group dynamics; non-violent communication and entrepreneurship.
Besides that, I love nature, cats and healthy tasty food. Oh, and I love a good laugh!
Are you curious?
Let’s find out if I’n the right fit for you!
What clients say about Marjolein
Susan (59), United Kingdom
“Marjolein is respectful, collaborative, calming and supportive. She’s very good at being able to guide me into a safe space, to move out of my cognitive into a more feeling, emotional body place. I find her voice pace and intonation very soothing. And Marjolein’s style of communication during the session is absolutely right, setting the tone – calm, measured without being overly ‘therapist’! We worked online, and it may take some time to communicatie emotions over Zoom, but the screen did not seem like a barrier.
I feel heard by Marjolein. And also sometimes challenged without any defensive response – which would usually be an unconscious reaction from me. I experienced dropping into a trusting place quite quickly. The sessions are very useful, enjoyable and satisfying. I have very much benefitted from working with her and I would definitely recommend her coaching to others as she has a natural skill.”
Rob (58), The Netherlands
"I experienced Marjolein as a coach who really observed me, saw my whole being and was able to work with this. I felt completely seen and heard. She very pleasantly took charge during the sessions and made sure that my story that was in my head could be narrated with my body and my heart. That was especially beneficial at times when my emotions were running high and I was less able to think clearly.
Marjolein invited me to use the entire coaching room and to put my body in motion. I found that to be very nice because my body knows what is going on much more quickly than my mind does. I felt her engagement with my story. I noticed how her questions gave me increasingly deeper insight into what was going on within me. She uses different methods to achieve this. For me, visualising my feelings helped a lot. It allowed me to make better contact with them. Not only during the sessions, but also afterwards. I could look at them and this helped me enormously to achieve significant progress regarding my issue."
Lena (57), Denmark
"I appreciate Marjolein’s calm approach, it feels very good and safe. She is great at noticing and observing what is important to me, and the fact that she reflects back along the way makes me feel both seen and heard.
The chemistry between us is really good. There’s a relaxed atmosphere and it’s wonderfully liberating to be able to laugh along the way. Marjolein is so adept at summarizing and keeping the conversation on track. That’s a great balance. Also, her ability to visualize is a great help to me as it forms images that can help me maintain important insights. I feel helped well throughout our sessions."
Bob (36), The Netherlands
"Marjolein created space and safety during our sessions. During our conversations, I was given the opportunity to look for answers and solutions that I felt were close to me, but which I would not have been able to reach without Marjolein's attentive feedback.
In addition, I received excellent and helpful exercises to not only engage cognitively, but also to place more emphasis on the physical aspects."
Caja (48), The Netherlands
“Marjolein is very observant. She uses all her senses, notices changes in my body language and my speech and provides feedback or intervenes when necessary, to make me more aware of myself. I feel safe showing my feelings, since she is able to help me prevent getting overwhelmed. She always gives me time to process what’s happening. And she helps me to stay connected to my body instead of getting lost in my head.
I’m learning how to slow down, give space to my emotions, and to process everything that comes up in a grounded way. I like the suggestions and tools Marjolein provides for me to practice and to continue my thought process in between sessions. That’s very valuable and helpful. The online format works surprisingly well.
Overall, Marjolein communicates clearly, gives structure to our conversations, is empathetic, professional and makes me feel very much at ease. I feel safe in the ‘coaching hands’ of Marjolein. I feel that everything that will or will not happen is welcome.”