Anderen helpen als ontwijkingsstrategie
Voor sommigen van ons is ‘anderen helpen’ een vorm van ontwijkingsstrategie om ons op een ander te richten. In plaats van op onszelf en onze emoties.
Choice is key
We have our habitual behaviours. Such as pleasing, shutting down or walking away. We need to learn to make conscious decisions. To choose healthy behaviour. Because we do have a choice.
Practicing how to care
Hi, this is me in my natural habitat (my house full of plants)! When people ask me if I have a green thumb (groene vingers), I always reply: "Actually I don't. I just really like mindful activities, such as watering and caring for my plants. All it takes is attention...
Let’s work with that resistance during a coaching session!
Starting a coaching or therapy trajectory isn’t an easy step. Many of us experience resistance to start. That's no problem. Your resistance is natural. Let’s work with that resistance!Resistance as a starting point Many of us experience some form of doubt or...
Easy choices, hard life. Hard choices, easy life.
Automatic living and the courage to change Certain periods in our life, we will get caught up in AUTOMATIC LIVING. We will make EASY CHOICES, which might not be the wisest ones. We will take shortcuts. Avoid confronting the hard truth. Take the easy way out. ...
If only life was paradise, happiness and ease all the time
We have the tendency to move away from what is unpleasant. And move towards what is pleasant. But life is ups and downs.Feeling fantastic This photo is me in my natural element. On a warm beach, feeling the wind and sun on my skin. Hearing the sea water and the waves....
Everything wants to be seen
Everything wants to be seen. This is what I believe in, and a truth I use in the coaching and therapy sessions.On a deeper level, what we really want is to feel whole and be at ease in life. To love ourselves and be loved by others. Our system (mind, body,...
Fall in love with who someone is, not with their potential.
Falling for someone because you see great potential in them, and not for who they actually are (here and now), can cause lots of disappointment. Ask yourself where the balance lies between you two.
Practicing what I preach
It is super important to grant ourselves time to recharge, relax, decompress. That can be by going for a walk, going into nature, taking an afternoon nap, taking a bath.
Why you should put yourself first
Do you have the tendency to always care for others? Do you have trouble putting yourself first? Here’s a reminder why you should.
The universal sense of Unworthiness
There is a deep sense of unworthiness ingrained in most of us. It’s part of the human condition. Deeply ingrained in how we think about ourselves.Our thinking patterns How often do you think: “I could have done better” “I should have done more” “That wasn’t efficient”...
Celebrating life
I tend to focus on action in the future. The: "I should do this..." and "I should have already achieved that...". And I'm not good at seeing what I've already achieved. That's where my friends and loved ones come in! They remind me of my acomplishments. They...
We undervalue rest
We get rewarded for being productive. We accomplish to feel worthy. But what we really need is rest and reflection. It’s invaluable to recharge and reflect.
Nuance is necessary
When we’re triggered and old trauma shows up, we have the tendency to think in black and white. Right or wrong. With me’ or ‘against me’.
You can’t stop the waves, but you can learn to surf
Our lives are full of ups and downs. No matter how much we wish for a life filled with pleasure and ease…hardship will always be part of it. It’s the deal.
Finding our calm state of being
Can you see this relaxed smile on my face? It's a reflection of my inner calm. But it has been a long road to get to this state of being.Being afraid I used to strive to have a life full of wonderful adventures and pleasant experiences. I was literally running after...
You are responsible for your own happiness. No one else is.
Don’t expect anyone else, such as your partner, to make you happy. It’s not their task. It is your own. You are in charge of your life, your choices and how fulfilled and joyful you can feel.Interdependence instead of codependence There are of course many ways in...
Consent is oversimplified and this is what we’re missing
If we want to experience rich relational interactions, we need to go beyond consent. We need to experience CHOICE and we need to be comfortable using our VOICE. When we talk about consent, many of us limit ourselves. We oversimplify. Thinking about consent: simple or...
“Everything is welcome”
“Everything is welcome” is a reminder I regularly give my clients. It’s so important to be received in a space where you don’t have to hide anything. Where there’s no taboos, no holding back out of shame.Shame sneaking up on us Because usually shame will come up, if...
The importance of boundaries
Learn more about boundaries: what types there are, how they work and how to get to know your own boundaries and the boundaries of the people you care about.Knowing your boundaries is a super power! When you’re able to feel your “yes” and “no”, you can make healthy...
Why Psychosexual Somatics Therapy?
When you’re at a point in your life where you feel you are stuck, in a crisis and things really need to change...I hope you decide to look for help and guidance. Usually we will lean towards psychological help and ‘talk therapy’. Let me tell you what you’re missing...
The 3 levels we can explore during PsychoSexual Somatics Therapy
Every coaching journey is personal and different. However, we can work on 3 levels, which make up the totality of the PsychoSexual Somatics Therapy (PST) approach. The ideal tempo for coaching or therapy to make lasting change In our culture, we’re used to moving...
How do we work in PsychoSexual Somatics Therapy?
Now you know what Psychosexual Somatics Therapy is, let’s look at what areas we can explore and what techniques we use. We bring awareness to several parts of your Being and your experience, to help you find the answers that lie within you.Tailor-made sessions When...
What is Psychosexual Somatics Therapy?
Either you’re fascinated when hearing this term, or your brain goes: wait whut?! When I chose to train as a coach, it was Psychosexual Somatics Therapy (PST) that stood out for me. I'm a certified PST Coach now. Want to know what this way of coaching is all about?...
My coaching space in Utrecht
If you choose in-person coaching sessions with Marjolein, you'll be welcomed into this calm, light coaching room in Utrecht. What my clients say: “I really love the atmosphere in here. It feels calm, homely and safe.” "Oh, how spacious. It's great to be able to move...
Hi, my name is Marjolein
I offer guidance around intimacy, sexuality, burnout prevention & recovery, tension & stress release. Tap into your inner wisdom!
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