You are responsible for your own happiness. No one else is.
Don’t expect anyone else, such as your partner, to make you happy. It’s not their task. It is your own. You are in charge of your life, your choices and how fulfilled and joyful you can feel.
Interdependence instead of codependence
There are of course many ways in which you can ask your partner to contribute to your happiness and joy. This all starts with YOU. You need to be in touch with yourself, your desires and your boundaries. To then be able to communicate about those with your partner, so that they can choose to play a role in your life in a meaningful way.
Finding the right balance
It’s not exactly easy to find that ‘right’ balance between relying on yourself and relying on your partner. Being overly self-dependent and not leaning into your relationship, will leave a distance between the two of you. Being very dependent on each other for your happiness, also dubbed ‘codependence’ can also be too much. How to find the right balance of ‘interdependence’? It all starts with YOU being properly bonded with yourself.